For many seniors, abuse does not begin with a single moment. It begins quietly with isolation, fear, and the belief that no one will listen. For one beneficiary of Carefor’s Elder Abuse Prevention Program (who asked to remain anonymous), that silence once felt impossible to break.

“When I was living in an abusive situation I did not believe anyone would understand me or could help me find a way out. I have come to understand that I deserve to live free from abuse, to have hope for a better future. The Elder Abuse Prevention Program gave me the strength, the support, and the confidence to take steps towards a better, safer, happier future. I am no longer living in an abusive situation.

I have the freedom and opportunity to rebuild my life. I am happier, and stronger, and moving forward with the assistance of the Elder Abuse Prevention Program. This serves as a message to other seniors who may be suffering from mental, physical, sexual, or financial abuse: you are not alone. There is assistance and support to help you. Reach out for help.”

Her story is not an exception; it is a reminder of how often elder abuse remains hidden. Research shows that 8–10% of seniors in Canada experience some form of elder abuse each year, yet only one in five incidents ever comes to the attention of people who can help. Many older adults fear retaliation, feel dependent on their abuser or simply don’t recognize what they’re experiencing as abuse.

Tanya Mayich, Carefor’s Elder Abuse Prevention Coordinator, sees this every day.

“Elder abuse is far more common than most people realize, and it often happens behind closed doors,” Tanya explains. “Our seniors can be especially vulnerable, whether due to isolation, declining health, financial dependence, or trust in the very people who may be harming them. This program exists to help them understand their situation, reclaim their voice, and take action toward a safer life.”

Recognizing the Signs of Elder Abuse

Abuse can take many forms (physical, emotional, sexual, financial, or neglect) and often more than one type occurs at the same time. Warning signs may include:

• Changes in mood, such as fear, anxiety, depression, or detachment
• Social withdrawal or sudden changes in behaviour
• Unexplained injuries, bruises, or signs of physical harm
• Neglect, including poor hygiene, lack of food, or missing medications
• Financial red flags, such as unusual withdrawals or unpaid bills despite adequate resources
• Changes in living arrangements, such as new individuals moving in or controlling the senior’s environment

These signs do not always mean abuse is occurring, but they are strong indicators that something may be wrong and should be explored.

What to Do If You Think Someone Is Being Abused

If you’re concerned about an older adult:

• Talk to them privately and express your concern gently and without judgment.
• Listen carefully and believe what they tell you; many seniors disclose abuse only once .
• Do not confront the abuser, as this can increase danger for both you and the senior.
• Encourage them to seek help and offer support in finding resources if you are able.
• Call police immediately if there is an urgent safety concern or imminent danger.

For seniors living in long‑term care or retirement homes in Ontario, abuse must be reported by law.

How the Carefor Elder Abuse Prevention Program Helps

Carefor’s Elder Abuse Prevention Program provides confidential, one‑on‑one support, including:

• Intervention and crisis support
• Safety planning
• System navigation and advocacy
• Short‑term crisis beds for seniors needing immediate safe housing
• Community referrals and ongoing guidance

The program serves seniors across Ottawa and Eastern Counties and offers a safe, trusted place for older adults to talk about what’s happening and explore their options.

For the beneficiary who shared her story, that support was life‑changing. What began as a fearful phone call became a pathway to safety, stability, and renewed hope.

Her message now serves as a beacon for others still living in silence: You are not alone. You deserve safety. And help is available.

To learn more, visit: carefor.ca/elderabuseprevention